Flight or Fight? Dealing with disrespect, being sidelined, insulted, by knowing your role and dharma

We often face situations at work, with friends and at home, when a group of people or a single person side lines us, disrespects us and often, the stand

we take is. Let me step away, as i don't agree to what they are doing.

This especially happens when there is no clarity on who is the boss. Examples are volunteering, societies and trusts.

Everyone thinks that they are right, they form groups and try to sideline the other group or other person.

I faced a similar situation in 2018, when my close friends came together and threatened to send me a legal notice. I just stepped away.

Today, one of my dear friends is also facing a similar situation. He is seeking a solution based on this video.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cx27qrsNFol/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

"A". Currently I am doing something in line with this.

I know he is keeping away from a group he formed for a social cause with some friends. As they have deviated from the principles. They are operating in the domain of 4 human needs of uncertainty certainty significance and connection, where as my friend has moved to a zone of the next 2, growth and giving. No wonder there is a disconnect.

One option is to fight and other is to take a flight. My friend, as i did choose to keep a distance. This is the easy way out. The more difficult it to be true to your role and achieve the objective.

This is what our communication was in WhatsApp.

"Me": This is ok when you operate in manomaya kosha. I had done the same when in 2018. At that time, my awareness was very low.

You are very evolved, my friend.

When you operate in vigyanamaya and anandamaya kosha, you do your roles with full awareness, abundance and acceptance.

This is not your self. It's a role. One of the many roles of you, the actor!

Your role is of a leader in your organisation. Doing what is right is your dharma. When you do that, you are free from all emotions.

Dont get trapped into the mind games. You have your role to play and no one can take it away. You have earned it.

This role demands enforcement of code of conduct. So be it. This is not your code of conduct. It is set by the organization.

Instead of stepping back, do your role. This is exactly what Arjuna had a dilemma, which Krishna resolved.

We face the mental battlefield every day with friends and close ones who we don't want to hurt.

But the self is beyond relationships, beyond the mind. Nirvanashatakam makes it clear.

Play your role well. This can only happen by jumping in, not by staying out.

When you do your role, there is no karma. Karma comes with attachement. Doing dharma is for the role. Example a soldier does nothing wrong, when he kills on the battlefield.

Karma, papa, punya, relationships, rebirth, moksha all operate in the mind domain. You are free. You only have to realise it.

This is very clearly given in nirvanashatakam.

This role play will give you tremendous power to perform the santana dharma... The eternal duties of the role.

As the role gets aligned to the objective of tremendous value addition, you use "saam daam danda bheda" as needed, to fulfill your larger objective. Stepping back is never in the agenda then. Focus on the giving aspect and connect to the purpose. The fulfillment comes from this. You move into AnandMaya kosha from this.

My Arjuna, it is time time take up your bow of dharma, shoot the arrows of your actions, while being aware of the role. Let not the horses of the mind, lead you astray. May lord Krishna be the self to keep the mind focused as the charioteer to show the right way.

I would have reacted totally differently, in 2018, if i had this clarity. Mere intelligence is not enough to act, when the mind is entangled in emotions. The clarity of the self is the key.

I have recently taken charge of all my buisnesses and actions with this clarity. Things that were not done in years and months got done in days and weeks.

Results are showing up everywhere, without taking any undue stress.